Sunday, February 08, 2009
Octuplet Rage: Is America Biased against Single Moms?
I am surprised by the public outrage against the woman who
gave birth to octuplets. It is odd for a single woman to have 14
children by in-vitro fertilization, but this woman's situation seems to have sparked intense anger and disgust from the media, bloggers and even the woman's own mother. People are angry that she has gone ahead and given birth to all of these children without a husband. Many assume she will be on public assistance and the tax payers will foot the bill for raising these children.
But no one questions the couple on the TV show who now have 18 children or the couple who star in the show "Jon and Kate plus 8". Jon and Kate were not well off by any means when their sextuplets were born. We do not know how the mom of the octuplets will support her children yet or if the natural father will help raise the kids , so to rush to judgement about her is unfair. I even read that diaper companies and other baby companies are not giving this woman freebies. Other couples who have multiple births get free diapers, baby food, clothes and even donated homes for free. But here is a single mom who is being offered nothing because she is not married? Or maybe it is because we think she is mentally unstable?
Whatever the reason, America has forgotten that 8 healthy babies have been born at once. These babies are the only surviving octuplets in our country. It is a miracle that they are alive and doing so well. How they were conceived is not our business. Let's not rush to judgment.
Children do deserve to have two parents and grow up in a loving home, but as many of us have found out through divorce, that is not always possible. I think it hits a raw nerve with people when a woman decides to become a single parent on her own. The bottom line is that these 8 babies are here and no amount of hatred and ill will towards their mother will change the circumstances surrounding their conception.
You may feel that this woman is off her rocker and disagree with how she conceived her children but the babies deserve our well wishes and good thoughts. I sincerely hope that people will rise above their judgments and lend a helping hand to this woman for the babies'(and her other children's) sake.
Labels:
children and divorce,
octuplets,
single moms,
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3 comments:
The outrage comes for another example of how American Values mean zero today.
>>These babies are the only surviving octuplets in our country.
OK then she should be in "Ripley's Believe it or Not" - or World record book -- but this is a freakish event -- call it what it is. This is not normal. This should not be hailed as a miracle.
IT IS important for children to have a father and a mother. I feel a doctor should NOT do any fertility treatment on a single mother. IF she want's chlidren - then the doctor should talk to her about adoption. NOT to mention she already has 6 KIDS -- this woman has a mental problem -- and is screaming for help - and no one is questioning her motives.
After watching her interview - I seriously think she has a "angelina jolie" complex - it's a sad story.
Yes, we do know how she planned to support these kids because she was already receiving about $500 in Food Stamps and over $2000 a month in government disability checks for 3 of the older children. I'm sure she thought she would gain fame and money from having octuplets, maybe get her own TV show. The father for these 8 is the same as for the older kids and has paid no support for them, because he was just a sperm donor. It was in the contract that he would have no financial responsibility.
People are angry not because she is a single mother, but because she had 14 kids that taxpayers are paying for! She thought only of her own needs and not of the disabilities these kids will surely face in the future.
People are also angry about this doctor who implanted 7 embryos at a time and kept doing it to an obviously disturbed woman because she was one of the very few he succeeded in making pregnant.
She does look a lot like Angelina Jolie. I wonder if she had her lips pumped up to match Angelina's natural pout.
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