Deadbeat Moms On The Rise...
I often write about deadbeat dads and the child support crisis we have in this country, with billions of dollars in back child support being owed to many children. Statistically there have been more fathers who refuse to support their kids than mothers, but now more mothers are becoming "deadbeats" too.
One mother has left her kids and fled to Hawaii. She lives in a lavish town house with her boyfriend and drives his luxury cars, including a Porsche and a Lexus. she currently owes $12,000 in back support. Another mother is on the top of Mississippi's Ten Most Wanted list for failing to pay more than $45,000 in child support.
I could never understand how a father could turn his back on his kids, but for some reason it is even more horrifying when a mom does it. Mothers are supposed to have maternal instincts, they sacrifice for their children, not abandon them. The rise in deadbeat moms is frightening. I guess this was inevitable with more men gaining custody of the children during divorce.
Both mothers and fathers must understand that when you become a parent you are financially responsible for them. You can't refuse pay child support because you are angry at your ex, think you deserve joint custody or feel your do not make enough money. The kids must come first, before your own needs. You brought your kids into this world and as a parent you are responsible. My advice to deadbeat parents is this: Grow up, stop whining and stop being so selfish. Start paying your child support and become someone your kids can be proud of.
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Are these people really deadbeats, or has the court mandated more than people can pay. In many cases its 80% of someone's net pay. How can anyone live. Take a look at my own story.
What my story doesn’t reveal about Marie is that
1. She took $10,000 from our joint checking account to give to her mother.
2. She took out a $250,000 insurance policy upon Gary’s death, when they first married at age 22.
3. She charged 4 credit cards to the limit, causing Gary to file for bankruptsy. These were mostly lavish gifts for her mother, brother, friends and boyfriends.
4. She was caught in bed with a guy by the name of Tim Hughes and she was charged with domestic violence and found guilty by a DuPage County judge and had several stints in jail for violating an order of protection.
5. She often called Gary’s employers, once calling 20 times a day, until his employer got sick of his ex-wife being a distraction to his co-workers. He was fired and fell behind on child support.
6. She called new employers, as soon as the Illinois Department of Labor got wind that he was going to be paid later in the week and caused him to loose more jobs.
7. It isn’t that he doesn’t care about his daughter, Marie often passed Kathryn off to some other relative while she was out at Benjamin’s, a bar across the street from where she lived nearby (Lawrence Ave, Harwood Heights), and she was seen in there having tequilla shots and beers and buying rounds for friends on credit cards and living a rather lavish lifestyle. Only when Gary was there to pick up his daughter, she never remembered where Kathryn was.
At that time there were no laws enforcing fathers’ rights to see their children.
After all this destructive behavior, Gary decided it was time to get on with his life.
It is true that Gary is a conservative; however, he is also a populist-conservative.
He spent years in Caprini Green, being a friend to fatherless black children and teaching them bible and being a boys basketball church. It was the best way he could spend many heartbroken years, being away from his daughter.
Kathryn, it was never that I didn’t care about you, but your mother kept us apart.
Gary also spent time in church on the fundraising committee, helping to raise over $100,000 annually for the community soup kitchen to feed the needy.
It is true that I ran for Republican Committeeman, mostly to bring light to how bad fathers’ rights are neglected.
During my divorce proceedings it was written in Illinois Revised Statues chapter 40 that you are to pay 20% for one child for child support, yet a corrupt court in DuPage county (and Marie) took 50% of my paycheck. As I fell behind, that amount increased to 80%. How exaclty is that fair to fathers? How can someone expect to live on nothing?
How can you make-up payments on thin air?
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